Dear Miss Emily:

My husband has coached boys in sports for many years.
I was ok with the weekends away for tournaments and the late
night for away games. I would always just say he's playing
with the boys ( we have only daughters). Last year, he
switched to girls and with that came 2 young women assistant
coaches. I wasn't happy. Even though I don't think anything
inappropriate is happening I can't get comfortable with
this situation. It has led to fights and me being depressed.
His position is I should get over it and not ask him to give
up something he enjoys. I should mention that he did have
an affair, years ago, and at least 2 flirtations that caused
problems. The sports season will be starting soon and I
need help. Should I put on my big girl panties and deal with
this, or draw a line?

Fed Up


-------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------

Dear Fed Up:

The fact that your husband has been unfaithful, in the past,
is a big concern, to me, as well as you. But you cannot insist
he stop coaching. It will make you look weak, and weakness is
unappealing in a relationship. Nothing will keep this "jock"
from straying, if he is inclined to do so. But please, don't
give him an excuse. Hold your head high, and tell him you
were mistaken in thinking that he should forfeit his "love of
the game." You might also want to say: "I'm betting that
you will do the right thing. If I am wrong, YOU'RE OUT!
Finally, let it go, and get on with your life.