Dear Miss Emily:

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 mos. I'm 20 and he's 26. I feel like I‘m in love with him, and he makes me really happy. It's just that it's hard for me to truly connect with him; I guess like having a good conversation. We have good talks all the time, though. I'm not sure what it is, but I feel like something is missing in our relationship. I know we've only been going out for three months, so do I need to just wait it out? Isn't there supposed to be an instant connection between us by now?

-----------------------Miss Emily advice-----------------

Dear Waiting:

By instant connection, do mean a soul-mate sort of thing?  If that’s the case, yes, you should already be saying: “I can’t believe it, he and I think so much alike.  It’s as if we’ve known each other all of our lives!” But that isn’t always the case, and it doesn’t mean you should feel disappointed – yet.  Good conversations usually center on ideas, philosophies, and attitudes.  He may be the type of person who does not go to any great lengths to let you in on what he’s thinking, deep down.  Maybe he’s insecure and feels you would find fault or judge him if he were to open up to you. Give it more time.  If you are having fun together, let that part of the relationship continue while both of you seek to establish trust and feel more comfortable in revealing each of your true nature. Only then will you be able to decide if it's worth sticking around.