Dear Miss Emily:

 I was in a 5 year relationship with my fiance, and his ex has always been giving us bother. They have a 6 year old son, together, and I felt I couldn’t trust him when it came to him being truthful about her.  Now he wants us to get back together, and I just don’t know what to do.  I love him, dearly, but I don’t know if our relationship would change enough for us to have a future together.
Between a Rock and a Hard Place
                
----------------------------Miss Emily’s advice---------------------

Dear Between:

If you had a five-year relationship with this man and, ultimately, decided he was not trustworthy when it came to his ex, I wouldn’t jump into a renewed relationship.  It appears he hasn’t convinced you that things would be different – any promise can easily be broken, if the reason for the promise is a means to an end.  I’m one who thinks actions tell the true measure of a person.  If he were to commit to clear guidelines concerning his ex, and maintained a respectable distance (yet carried his weight concerning his son), it would different. As it is, taking on the role of a stepmother to a young boy is challenging enough, without feeling you have to sit on the sidelines and watch his ex, your guy and their child take center stage.  You have your doubts and you should listen to that inner-voice.  Act in haste, repent in leisure.