Dear Miss Emily:

I've just found out that my current boyfriend was seeing another woman at the time he and I began dating. I know that the week after our first date he booked a hotel for him and the other woman. I've done some more snooping and I cannot find any more info on whether they met up since he and I became official, and if they ever had sex. I've been with him for just over a year and I don't know if I should stay with him, because I’m unsure if he has cheated. Please help!
Dubious

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Dear Dubious:

If he had a rendevous with another woman after your first date, I don’t see that as a terrible act of betrayal, unless he led you to believe, right off the bat, that you were going to be an exclusive couple.  I don’t know how you found out about this booked room -- if you rummaged through his paperwork or someone ratted on him – but this was a year ago, and if your quest to get more dirt on him has come up zip, he actually might be faithful to you!  However, if his behavior is somewhat questionable, meaning he has absences from you that seem to be a pattern, whispering on the cell phone, or any other peculiar behavior, then I can understand your concern.  But again, if this was something that happened a year ago, and he’s been a good, attentive boyfriend ever since, drop the suspicion and paranoia and get on with your life.  Neither one of you deserve to be at a fire if there’s no smoke to lead you there.  

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