Hey Emily,
I have a question for you: I'm 16 years old, and I've had a crush on this girl at my school for about a year now. We met in science class, and she'd always go up and say hi to me. A month ago, I got her number (and she said I was "cute" for doing so).  I've tried to call a few times, and text her, but most of the time she won't answer. When she does, she's very sweet, but I get so confused when she doesn't. I was pretty sure that she liked me, but now it seems like she doesn't want to talk to me. Maybe she's just lazy when it comes to getting back to people. Maybe I'm reading this wrong. But I asked her to a movie once, but she said "she was camping with her grandparents." Now this could be a true statement, but a little hard to believe.  I really like her, and I don't want to throw away a relationship if it's a misunderstanding. But what if it isn't? I've had relationships in the past (that haven't worked out AT ALL), and for once I want a working relationship.  Am I doing something wrong? I only call/text a few times a week, but is there something I need to do to get her to talk to me more?
Ready for more

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Dear Ready:

You know, you seem like a guy who’s smart and knows what he wants.  In fact, I think she’d be lucky to have you.  Her loss, indeed.  If someone wants to be involved in a relationship, they don’t become lazy about it before it even has a chance to begin.  If she said it was “cute” that you asked for her number, to me, that sounds condescending.  There’s nothing cute about it.  It’s a serious request suggesting that you are interested in her.  I can’t imagine how there could be a misunderstanding about your intentions.  She’d have to be a real ditz not to get the message.  Stop the text messages and calls (it’s bordering on obnoxious).  Only then will you find out if she’s interested, because she’ll want to know why.  It’s possible that she’s scared to get involved with anyone but, at sixteen, most teenagers know the ropes.  Relationships can be tough. Many of them are testing grounds until you find one that sticks.  I think the best relationships work because there are shared common goals and interests.  You’ve done all you can do.  The ball’s in her court.