Dear Miss Emily:

I think my boyfriend is being really pissy over something I didn't think was a big deal. We were talking the other day about sports we no longer take part in, but used to enjoy, and I mentioned that I used to do judo in college and was pretty good; even though I only received a beginner's yellow belt. He thought this was hilarious because I'm tall and blond and weigh around 125lbs, and I guess he didn't think that a pretty girl could fight her way out of a paper bag, much less do a martial art.  So when he got done laughing at me (he really was laughing at me) I challenged him to a wrestling match. Long story short, I used some timely leg sweeps and wrist throws to send him to the floor a few times, and after a while he got so tired out that his strength advantage was gone, and I was able to pin him. Well, I figured he would have learned his lesson, but he's totally bent out of shape about it. He's been pouty and obnoxious ever since the match and keeps challenging me to a rematch, saying I got lucky, and that he wasn't trying hard...all this stuff to protect his macho ego. So what do I do? Give him a rematch and let him win? (He would totally rub it in my face and say things like "I told you women can't fight").  Or agree to a rematch and try my best again, risking another blow to his ego if he loses?  Or just refuse and tell him to deal with it? (I've tried that last option and he just won't let it go). Please advise!
Decked Him

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Dear Decked Him:

If you give in to him and do a rematch, you must give it your best and not allow him to win.  This is what some parents do for their children, otherwise, they think it will destroy their kids self-esteem.  Right or wrong, your boyfriend is not a child, he is just behaving like one. Apologize to him for not thinking about the repercussion, but my advise would be to not give in to a rematch.  Someone could get hurt.  He is loaded for bear, and if beating you is his M O in life (the fragile male ego looming its ugly head), I’d reconsider why you would be with someone who thinks so little of you that he would attack you verbally, and set you up to fail.  Hopefully, in time, his little mind will rationalize that he could or would have beaten you in a second go and that will be it.  Above all, remain calm, rational and mature.  Three emotional components that he seems to lack.  I’d love to know the outcome.  You know how to contact me.