Dear Miss Emily:

I'm seeing this guy and all is going amazing! We both have strong feelings for each other but it's not love, yet. We are kind of having a secret relationship. I'm 15, and hes 21. But the age gap doesn't bother me as it is just a number, and it's what's on the inside that counts, isn't it? I have an older brother which is a big problem because he;s 25 and doesn't like my partner a single bit. It is like were Romeo and Juliet. I don't want this to end what we have going on with each other. I have been treated really badly in the past, and he just makes me feel like I'm on top of the world. I am always happy now. I just don't know if we should carry on, or end it before it gets more serious, and when it would be harder to end. But I really want us to go far? Help needed urgently.

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------

No matter what age we are, we have choices in life, and some have major, adverse consequences. Your age, however, will make it more difficult if certain  people find out about this relationship. It can be heart wrenching enough breaking up . . . but it's even harder when you're underage, having a relationship with an older guy, and family goes ballistic. Also, you have to think of the sexual angle too. Where I live, in the United States, a guy can face criminal charges and be forced to  register as a sex offender. That is one concern if you have similar laws in the U K, or he could get in legal trouble in any way. Find out. So . . . although I do understand age is not necessarily a huge factor here, and your maturity level, it's all the other things that can go wrong. Sneaking around can be fun, to a degree, but that wears thin when you are always having to watch your back. Now I've given you all the reasons to be concerned, and the price that can be paid. Shakespeare wrote wonderful works that epitomized the very essence of human behavior in terms of love, hate, revenge, greed and power. And he was spot on with how things can backfire in each of these human emotions. It would be wise to take a look at that aspect when considering how to handle this matter.