Dear Miss Emily:

I have been with the same guy for almost two years. During this time he lost his job 5 months into it. I helped him to find another one. He cheated on me ten months in. We got engaged at 13 months. He moved in and out, and in and out, and in -- and now he's out. Now almost a year later he has cheated, again, gotten the girl pregnant, and paid for an abortion. He just fessed up to this today! My question is: Am I wrong for walking away with nothing to say? I have no desire to talk about it, be friends, or just be cordial or nice. I don't want to argue, go off, or black out telling him where to go and how to get there. But he's emailing me, calling me, and popping up at my door. I really need some advice before I lose it!

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------

What is left to say that hasn't already been said? When you're done, you're done! End of discussion. Rehashing serves no purpose other than raising your blood pressure, and that's not healthy. Tell him it's over, period. Do not takes his calls. Do not answer the door for him. Do not engage him in conversation. To my way of thinking, this lousy relationship should have ended a long time ago, and although that makes me question your judgment and the reasons you hung in there, you didn't ask me for an opinion on that. No, you're doing everything right concerning this matter. And high time too!