DEAR MISS EMILY:
 
I HAVE BEEN DATING MY BOYFRIEND FOR 9 MONTHS, AND I RECENTLY NOTICED
HIM BACKING AWAY FROM ME AND NOT DOING THE LITTLE THINGS HE USED TO DO.
LAST NIGHT, HE TOLD ME THAT HE IS NOT SURE IF HE CAN COMMIT TO ME AND/OR
SEE ME IN HIS FUTURE, BUT HE CARES A LOT FOR ME. WHAT DO I DO? I AM...
HEARTBROKEN

-------------Miss Emily's advice---------

Dear Heartbroken:

There is nothing you can do to change his mind. He told you, forthrightly,
that he's questioning your place in his future. His pushing you away is in
preperation for moving on with his life without you. Sure, he has feelings
for you, but it isn't enough to move forward. The heartache you feel is
understandable. This revelation was a huge blow, but you had to sense
it was coming. Do not try to convince him that he is wrong. If you come
off foolish and desperate, you'll give him two more reasons for breaking
up. If he ever changes his mind, and wishes to make another go of it,
part of the reason could be that you backed out gracefully and proved to
him that you are emotionally secure and more than capable of
carrying on without him.