Dear Miss Emily:
Recently, I have met a guy who's been in my English class all year, but we've just never talked. Well, last week we were partnered up for an assignment and we ended up sharing lots of laughs, and we exchanged numbers. I told him I'd text him, and I did. He texted back, and we just small talked, and I started to realize I liked him. Then, the next day in class, I suggested that he call me, and he told me that he really hates talking on the phone so I gave up. Surprisingly, that  night, he called me. We talked for about an hour. Just about everything. He's everything I like! Smart, nice, really funny. Through that next few days, we texted here and there, but I really liked talking to him on the phone (I feel like you can get to know someone better that way). But every time I want him to call, I have to practically beg him and he says sarcastic things that could be interpreted as mean but that’s just his personality. But sometimes he does things that really make me think he doesn’t like me. Then, last night, he called me and we talked for about half an hour. I've heard him say before that he doesn’t want to date until he can drive which is May. But when my friends ask him if he likes me, he says no. I just can't seem to figure out if he likes me. What should I do? Pursue him? Quit? Give up? HELP!
Blue

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Dear Blue:

This must be freaky-teen boy month, because I have had this question, recently.  I think he might be scared.  Maybe he’s never had a close relationship with a girl, and that’s why he’s all over the map. Then again, he might just likes the idea of being friendly with a girl, and that’s all he wants right now, despite his seductive personality.  I wouldn’t try to force the issue, because what can you do?  Stomp your feet and say, "Shape-up you fool. I'm hot!"  No, you’re just going to have to judge this by his actions.  When he sees that you’ve backed off, he’ll either do something about it, or breathe a sigh of relief.  As I’ve said, many times before, don’t take it personally. If friendship is all he can offer, only you can decide whether that’s all right with you. By the way, I think it’s common for guys to hate talking on the phone.  Verbal communication is more of a female talent.  At the end of the day, you’ll find that most guys (except gay guys, those in drama, or stars on the debate team) like to play with little balls, big balls, and their balls rather than get chatty.