Dear Miss Emily:

Well, I’ve been talking to this guy for 3 months now, and I told him I want a relationship. He says he likes me, and cares about me, but he just doesn’t know what he wants.  So I said I understand. Then he said, I think we’re moving things to fast, but he doesn’t wanna lose me. I don’t understand, and I don’t know what to say or do. Please help me!!!!
Ready to Leap
-------------------Miss Emily’s advice---------------

Dear Ready:

Unless you threatened to lock him in your basement and feed him through a crawl hole, I can’t see the reason for his need to delay moving forward (it’s been 3 months!), but you have no recourse and must take him at his word.  The statement, “I don’t know what I want,” really means, “I know what I want,” and, like he said, it’s not taking it to the next step. There’s no magic bullet here.  You can’t force the issue. However, you must adhere to this strategy: Be cool, and never let him see you sweat. You did a wonderfully brave thing by telling him how you feel and, now, the ball is in his court.  If he doesn’t hit back, don’t take it personally.  For all you know, he’s got three nipples and he’s afraid you’ll find out. Give it a little more time and, then, move on. At this level of your relationship, or non-relationship, there’s no reason to feel heartbroken.