Dear Miss Emily:

Well, I’m like the tom-boy at my school and I have always just been friends with all the guys, especially this one guy.  I really like him as more than a friend and all my friends think he likes me too.  But since im a tom-boy, I don't really know the signs that a boy gives when he likes you.  Please help, Emily!!!!!!
Ready To Leap

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Dear Ready:

I see the problem.  If you’re “just one of the guys” it’s easy for them to think you won’t have any romantic interest in them.  I am not going to tell you to go out and buy a dress, that’s for sure.  You have to be true to yourself.  Friends opinions are never quite reliable, because sometimes they tell you what they think you want to hear.  The signs that show someone is interested depends on the individual.  Usually there’s a desire to want to be around the person, and a active show of interest in finding out what makes them tick.  But if he’s the shy type, in this area, nothing may happen until you go to a high school reunion, have the courage to tell him that you had a crush on him way back when, and hear him say, “That’s crazy.  I had one on you too!”  This is not an uncommon story.  In high school, I had a guy tell me he had a crush on me two years before, and I would never have known it.  I don’t even remember talking to him!  (Ah, Dave Nash -- where are you now?)  If you want action, ask him if he'd like to come over to your house, or see if he wants to go to a movie, the mall, etc.  Nothing too bold about that, but being alone with him should help ease into something more than friendship if it’s in the cards.  If he puts you off, you have your answer.  As a last ditch effort, if you haven’t the guts to do the former, have a trusted friend get the message across to him.  “I’m not sure, but the way my friend talks about you, I think she might be interested.”  Then you’ll definitely know the score when your friend tells you his reaction.  If he’s not on the same page, act as if nothing has happened.  Remember, guys can be dense. Sometimes you have to go that extra mile.