Dear Miss Emily:

My ex-boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago, and I am still in
love with him. I have tried everything that I could to get back
with him, but nothing seems to work. What can I do? I really don't
want to lose him. I was told that he has been talking to someone
else, so I need to know what to do before they get together.
Need Magic Bullet

---------------Miss Emily's advice------------

Dear Need:

First of all, you must realize that you cannot lose something you do
not have. Please understand that I'm not trying to be cruel, it's
a matter of being realistic! What good can possibly come from your
being delusional about this? If you have tried everything to get him
back, and it's failed, what's left? Kidnapping him and holding him
hostage? I'm joking, of course, and you probably don't find this funny.
But if I were you, I'd make up my mind that this is not a matter of life
or death. You will survive, and a hell of a lot better if you stop
obsessing and look for something to keep yourself busy. I'm betting that,
in the process, you'll see that life without him isn't all that bad.
Why? Because you finally realized that your feelings of self-worth are
no longer for sale.