DEAR MISS EMILY;

SATURDAY NIGHT, I WAS OVER AT MY FRIEND’S APARTMENT. WE GOT REALLY DRUNK TOGETHER(CELEBRATING OUR END OF THE SCHOOL SEMESTER AND ALL).  LATER IN OUR DRUNKEN STATE, WE STARTED TO KISS, A LITTLE.  JUST A FEW KISSES --  PERIODICALLY.  I WAS ALREADY INTERESTED IN HER IN THE FIRST PLACE.  I ALSO WAS INFORMED BY ANOTHER ONE OF OUR FRIENDS, WHO WAS THERE, THAT "SHE" KNEW HOW I FELT.  TODAY, SHE AND I  TALKED, AGAIN, FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE THAT HAPPENED.  NOW THERE'S SLIGHT TENSION AND INCONSISTENCIES IN THE VIBES I AM GETTING FROM HER. EVERYONE IS ADVISING ME TO JUST ASK HER HOW SHE FEELS, BUT IT'S NOT THAT EASY.  I DON'T WANT HER TO THINK THAT, NOW, ALL I WANT IS TO DATE HER, BECAUSE I AM HAPPY TO JUST BE HER FRIEND IF SHE DOESN'T FEEL THE SAME ABOUT ME.  BUT I KNOW SHE WONT BELIEVE THAT.  DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ME TO HELP ME GET TO THE BOTTOM OF HER FEELINGS?

----------------------------Miss Emily’s advice----------------------

Alcohol is a great way to free-up inhibitions, but when the high dissipates, some of us are left to reassess our behavior.  And in this case, it could be your friend.  I would scrunch up my face, and say this: “Do you want to comment on what happened the other night?”  If she says, “I don’t think it was such a good idea,” tell her, “Oh, good, because the next day, I realized the same thing."  I think she'll believe you if you sound sincere.  If, however, she says she’d like to revisit that night in a more meaningful way, make sure she’s on the same page in terms of the “L” word.  If she is not, any further dalliances will end up poorly – kinda like picking someone up for a date and, after they get in the car, ask you to let them off at the next corner.  I firmly believe that if she’s not gay, but only wants to explore what she feels is a cool excursion into forbidden territory, you’ll end up getting hurt and wishing you had stayed "just friends."