Dear Miss Emily:

I'm 15 and I have a boyfriend who's 18 and lives 5 states away from me. I love him and he loves me, but my mom doesn't  seem to want to believe that I do really love him. She just thinks that we're going to have sex, but I'm not going to. I know that every teenager says that, but I'm not ready, and he knows it. I told him and he's okay with it, but she doesn't seem to want to believe me. My mom is one of the most important person in my  life....what do I do?
Fifteen and in love

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Dear Fifteen:

You don't say how you came to love a guy who lives this far away, but I assume you are seeing him occasionally!?  It seems that your mother has some insight to this situation that you believe you have, but is questionable.  And this is why:  He is eighteen, and although he says he respects your decision to hold off on sex, it can get dicey in the heat of the moment.  What girl hasn't been in this situation?  Still, I think it's possible, as it has been demonstrated many times, that girls have been able to ward off a horny male, even if it takes a stun gun!  But this guy lives 5 states away.  Why are you not seeking a love interest closer to home?  This is where the Internet can play havoc with the emotions.  If your mother is the most important person in your life, and you trust her opinion, at least try to understand what she is saying to you.  He's eighteen, he lives too far away, and it's not an easy situation to control.  If she remains opposed to this romance, I think you're stuck with either letting it go, or creating an emotional trauma in your future.